In honor of my birthday, I wanted to share 25 things I’ve learned since turning 25 and all my years on this Earth.
These are all little things that have helped me better myself and learn from my past mistakes.
It’s okay to not do what everyone else is doing.
You can take this to several different things in life. Whether it may be top trends that aren’t you, bullying someone because your friends are, drugs or drinking when you’re not comfortable or too young to properly take care of yourself. It’s okay to try new things and find what’s right for you. Don’t let peer pressure ruin the rest of your life. It’s okay to march to the beat of your own drum.
It’s better to have no friends than the wrong friends.
I’ve had my share of friends and at the end of the day, I have 4 that I call my best friends. Quality over quantity. Substance over popularity. You want to be able to have deep conversations, cry from heartbreak or laughter, have inside jokes, and just be there for each other in times of need. Friendship is not just a one way street.
Your emotions matter.
You are allowed to have feelings and be angry. Do not shove them to the side. Do not shut down when you’re upset. It’s important to argue about the things that matter to you. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that the people who you care about you won’t ignore your feelings or undermine your worth when you’re upset. I was scared that if I spoke up, people wouldn’t like me anymore. You can be upset about things.You can scream, yell, and cry for no reason. It means you’re human.
High school is a moment of your life.
It may seem like the biggest deal to you and the drama is the most important, but I promise you it’s not. In a blink of an eye, you’re graduating college and out in the real world. One day you’ll see some high schoolers complaining about homework and drama and you’ll laugh about how silly they seem. It may seem like the world is ending and your life is over but I can promise you , your life is just beginning. It gets so much better.
Family is the most important. But you can choose who your family is.
You can have the absolute best family. Your family could also be the worst. They could kick out their own children because they don’t want to provide for them. They could walk out on their family after 30 years and act like a completely different person. You choose who you want your family to be. They can be your friends who’ve stood by you in your darkest times. They could also be a relative that’s more of a parent than your own. It’s whomever feels the most like family to you.
Save. Save. Save.
The second you start earning money, save it. Trust me. Whether it be babysitting at 14, a fast food job at 16, or chores when you’re young. Put it wherever you save your money. It’s amazing how quickly you can build up a savings when you have no bills to pay for. By the time you have bills and responsibilities, you’ll have a good savings to back you up.
Just because you think differently than someone, doesn’t mean they’re wrong.
Don’t be so quick to judge. You don’t know what they’re going through or how they grew up. One of my biggest pet peeves is people who don’t agree or like the same things as you begin to judge and put their opinions on to you like it’s law or “right/correct”. Just agree to disagree. That’s the grown up way of handling differences and accepting people.
You do you boo.
They’ll do them. Don’t get butt hurt by strangers. Reiterating what I said above, it’s not a big deal if someone disagrees with you. Just move on. There’s literally no point in getting overworked about what others think/believe. There’s a time and a place for that. Do you boo,
I’ve dealt with anxiety for a good portion of my life.
It’s never been to the point I can’t function but it’s been pretty bad. Stopping me from making phone calls, driving to new places, making friends, and waking me up from a deep sleep into a full-blown panic attack. I’ve been told I’m “making it up” and “it’s not real”. It is a real thing though. It affects more people than you think. You are not alone. It gets better. Either you’re able to push through it yourself or get professional help. It is okay to say you need help.
Always wait for the right person.
It’s not worth it jumping into anything just to fit in. You can take this for so many different things. Kissing someone just to have a first kiss, being in a relationship to not be alone, etc. Just wait till it feels absolutely right to you. It always works out in the end. I promise you.
College isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay.
Even with a diploma you may not get a job in your field. If you go to college and feel like it’s not for you, don’t keep doing it if you’re unhappy. It’s okay to realize something isn’t for you. Don’t go just because you think it’s what you have to do. There’s so many jobs that you don’t need a diploma for. Just do what works best for you and don’t think you have to do anything a certain way or in a certain order. You can always go to college later in life if you want to.
Learn how to budget early.
It’ll help in the long run when you’re out on your own. Trust me. Go by weekly. Bills, groceries, gas, appointments, going out, and anything else. Figure it out early and it’ll seriously help so much.
Know your limitations. But don’t box yourself in.
Sounds a bit contradicting, I know. Push past your comfort zones and embrace new things, but also know your limits. Don’t put yourself in situations where you’ll be super uncomfortable and unable to function. It’s okay to be a little uncomfortable. Try to find that healthy balance.
Friends is one of the best shows ever.
Thank you, Kendra, for introducing me. I’ll be obsessed forever.
Get yourself friendships that pick right back up, even after 2 years.
It’s one of the best feelings ever. My best friends and I have always been this way. After we graduated high school, it got harder to see them on a regular basis. However much time has passed, though, when we do get together it’s like no time has passed at all. We’re still as close as we were 7 years ago, just even closer. That’s how you know your friendships will last forever.
Take care of yourself. But also treat yourself every once in a while.
Eat that pizza. Go to that party. Moderation, people. Don’t go nuts all the time but have those moments where you let loose. Get your nails done. Cut your hair. Get that much-needed massage. But don’t break the bank. Reward yourself for saving and doing so good. Eat that junk food you love to reward yourself for reaching your fitness goals. Stay healthy and happy but don’t compromise your fun too!
Everyone has their own pace.
There is no set time to get to places in your life. Don’t listen to those people who want to know when you’re going to get a “real job” or get married. You don’t need to be engaged just because all your friends are. You don’t need to go to college right out of high school because your brother did. They’re not you. Your boobs will come in eventually. You’ll meet that special someone, your timeline is different. That’s the beauty of it being your life. It’s unique and different.
Coffee is life.
Especially with a little cream and sugar.
Never give up your dreams.
No matter how long they take. Your dreams are important and they will happen as long as you bust your ass and never give up.
Music fixes everything.
It can uplift your mood, relax you, make road trips fun, and bring people together. A little bit of everything helps to keep your mood uplifted and happy. If you need a good cry, music! If you’re feeling sexy, music! Whatever it is, music enhances it.
Don’t bend over backwards for people who don’t deserve it.
I’m guilty of this myself. It’s hard when you’re a people pleaser. But you should be getting stuff in return. You should be recognized for your efforts. When someone starts taking advantage of that, cut them out. They’re not a true friend and don’t deserve you.
It’s okay to be selfish sometimes.
Not always, but just the right amount. Put yourself first and focus on just you. It’s okay to just have time for yourself.
The grass isn’t greener on the other side.
We’re all struggling to have it all together. Social media is used for two things: showing the best parts of your life or complaining. Don’t think someone’s life is perfect by what you see online.
Don’t waste your time with people who don’t appreciate you for yourself.
Don’t change yourself for the people in your life. If they can’t accept you for you who are, they don’t deserve to be in your life.
Stay true to yourself.
It’s not easy, and it’s okay to change over the years, but don’t compromise who you are for anything. No person, job, or situation.